Velkam Ramzan

The relationship that you long for is in the conflict that you're avoiding when there is conflict and we're thinking maybe I'd get into it

And really share how I'm feeling or maybe I just ignore it because I don't want to start something big

It's kind of like we're putting tape over the top or kind of just doing a patch job

Like I don't know. We don't want to get into it. It's not worth doing. It's just the dishes. It's just this

It's just that and then before you know it. It's like I can't contact you anymore like

Where are you and I don't feel intimate

I don't feel close because there's all this stuff in the way, and what is that?

It's it's the stuff we were avoiding because we're not just avoiding the conflict. We're avoiding them

We're avoiding the places where we're different and where we see things differently

And that is the same thing is avoiding them

And if you don't deal with the conflict you're gonna have all this stuff in the way

You might realize that the intimacy that you long for that you miss in the relationship was always actually in the conflict that you were avoiding